“Finding Time” has become a phrase I use way too often and usually more than once on a daily basis. The list of things I have to find time for has been getting longer and longer lately. I’ve always been a person who takes on too much. In College I always worked full time while going to school, after college I usually worked more than one job. Now with two kids I manage our home, help my husband run 2 businesses and manage rental properties, while trying to expand my blog and work with Young Living. On top of this I have the luxury of being that person who NEVER asks for help. I literally cringe at the thought of asking someone to babysit or help me, this is a big flaw of mine and honestly I need to work on this. If you’ve heard the saying “jack of all trades, master of none” that’s me and I’m mastering less and less the more I take on. On the flip side I’m extremely, extremely blessed and I would take all this busyness over the latter.
When I had my first little girl I became a stay at home mom so now I’d just have so much time right? The answer to this is tricky, yes I have a lot of time at home, but not a lot gets done. With two little girls there isn’t a lot of downtime. I struggle because I don’t want to be the mom that has her kids play alone so she can do housework all day, but I also don’t want to be the mom who’s house is a mess and living in chaos. I try to find a happy medium, and I also believe that independent play is SO important for kids. My parents were super busy when I was young, I often played alone because I was an only child, and now being an adult, I’m very self sufficient and independent, and I’d label that as one of my best qualities.
Ive recently taken on some extra responsibilities completely by choice. So those things I needed to find time for before, have another 5 in front of them that also need finding time for. My mom always tells me “we can make time” or “you can always find time when you need to” which is completely true HOWEVER as much as I want a perfectly clean house because I love order and organization, I for sure don’t really even want to find that time to clean it. Because who really wants to clean anyway?
I’m guessing you’ve gotten this far and your looking for the answer to finding more time right? Well I don’t really have one for you. BUT if you feel like you have no time and there are things your not getting done, your floor is covered in toys, you can’t remember the last time you washed your hair, just know I’m right there with you🙋🏼♀️ All jokes aside I think the answer is making more time for yourself. It’s great to serve your family and others but you’ll start to struggle more and more when you don’t make time to do the things you need to and to take care of yourself. It seems simple but honestly it just dawned on me the other day when I was watching a moms insta story about having someone help watch her little girl while she worked out. Now I know there are people out there and mom shamers gasping at the thought, but honestly how can you continue taking care of others if you don’t take care of yourself. So anyway, I’m assuming there are moms out there like me who have missed this memo so this one is for you! Add yourself to that long list of things your trying to find time for, you deserve it.
XoXo Niki